When we were younger we were taught “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” I think we all know by now that that’s pretty much a complete lie. Words do hurt… quite a lot actually.
Ever since I was in elementary school I’ve been made fun of. Back then it was because I was a foreigner and could hardly speak English, but since high school it’s more because I’m studious and an introvert. Like I mentioned, I’m quite fond of literature.
I never really understood why it seemed so socially unacceptable to seldom spend time with others or actually like studying. In fact, back in high school I got the impression that being “smart” was unacceptable to others as well.I still do actually… especially around people my age. People called me a “nerd” or a “geek” and constantly asked me how my grades stayed so high. I told them it was the magical thing called studying.
The word “fat” pushed me towards an eating disorder back in middle school. In fact if someone calls me fat or even “healthy”, whether or not they’re joking, it leads this completely irrational reaction in my head. Neither of the terms are even an insult! But it leads me down that spiral downwards once again.
But others use more than just descriptive words to hurt me. They don’t even have to call me a name.
“Get over it” is probably the phrase that I hate hearing the most. Having to juggle these mental health issues it’s like a stab at my heart when someone, especially someone close to me, tells me to “get over it.” And then hearing all the stigma that goes around hurts even more.
But maybe that little saying is true in some way. We’re always going to face these kinds of negativity no matter what we do. That’s just… the way it is, I guess. Maybe it’s trying to say that words shouldn’t hurt us because we can’t control what other people say or think about us. We’re always going to have to deal with some kind of criticism from someone and we have to build a thicker skin and find a way to accept it.
So that’s my little spiel for today. I hope everyone has a great Friday and and even more amazing weekend. I’m going to Universal Studios tomorrow so I’m quite excited!